As human beings, we are created to need others. In infancy, this need secures our very survival as a child is dependent upon his or her caregivers. As we age, we seek relationships with others for emotional and physical fulfillment. Biblically speaking, God recognized Adam’s loneliness and created Eve out of Adam’s rib. Therefore, God understood the feeling of being alone and didn’t want Adam to have to experience that, even though Adam himself had not, at that time, recognized that he was even alone. Adam and Eve’s relationship was not without it’s fair share of problems as the entire fall of humanity is, afterall, associated with it.
However, the Bible tells us that Eve desired wisdom and disobeyed God’s command, but is silent regarding Adam’s motives for eating the forbidden fruit when offered to him by Eve. While there are many reasons why this could be, a possibility exists that he had to face the anxieties associated with loneliness for the very first time if he and Eve were to be separated based on her sin of eating the fruit. As in, if he did not partake, he was forever separated from her.
If we view the moment of Adam’s choice as correlated to the first date of which he contemplated the emotion of loneliness, one could correlate the fears of both rejection and abandonment to those anxieties Adam felt within himself, based not only on his loyalty to God, but his own being based on Eve’s betrayal with the snake that landed him in such a predicament. It is an ancient and deep energy on many levels.
However, many people suffer from loneliness. Some are aware of it, and some are not. As Carl Jung states, “Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible.” I have known that feeling here of late, which is how I could tune into the feeling more directly.
In closing, part of understanding the fear of nothing itself, is understanding that loneliness is when you do not feel understood or have to be someone who you are not in order to gain acceptance. Sometimes, change is unavoidable, but concealing such truth will inevitably, always lead to the feeling of emptiness within one’s own being.