I AM NOT AFFILIATED, A MEMBER, OR IN ANY WAY ASSOCIATED WITH THE HG TUDOR AND/OR ITS AFFILIATES AND HAVE NOT BEEN PAID, ENDORSED, TO REBLOG AND/OR PROVIDE INSIGHT FROM AN EMPATHIC PERSPECTIVE ON THIS POST.
HG Tudor is a Narcissist sociopath who currently is in therapy that blogs about his condition so that the world may understand the dynamics of Narcissist Personality Disorder (otherwise referred to as NPD).
A while back, HG wrote an article entitled Down which can be found at the blog Knowing the Narcissist.
In so many ways, sometimes it feels that the Narcissist’s objective is to be seen as the most cruel of monsters, but someone who is actively working on changing themselves and educating people on understanding the intensity of the pitfalls of a Narcissist relationship could never be a monster in my book. Currently, HG is being advised by therapists he refers to Dr. E and Dr. O in his books which an be purchased on Amazon and give vast insight to Narcissist Personality Disorder from his perspective.
Naturally, reading HG in an online setting, he states who he is through literature and is in the process of healing. Naturally, there is hope that Narcissist’s will choose differently overtime, but for in many ways it feels like the almost a scripted manual of repetition. HG is certainly smart enough to change, but what I like about this post is that it adds another layer of being discarded (discarded is the term whereby Narcissist seek to exit a relationship)…being forced to stay…with no self-esteem or dignity. Well, that will never do!
In applying empathy in this post, it sounds as if she is needed and not needed (referring to last relationship). While a discard may be the safest strategy in terms of the Narcissist does not desire you in their life and is occupied by something else, there is also a time when enough is enough. If anyone sexually, financially, emotionally, and physically abuses someone in a relationship, they should be aware that they are on a clicking countdown.
In essence, HG Tudor teaches us that this is all about control of the victims in the highest fashion. There is no love. There is no relationship. The reality is that it is an illusion created to trap you and keep you in a state of confusion – as such emotional reactions provide the Narcissist with “fuel” or “narcissist supply”.
For those of you who are new to Narcissism, the Narcissist applies a golden period of which victims are “ensnared” that typically lasts for a year or less – this can even be rendered on an online setting. After such time, the Narcissist starts abusing such relationship to provoke negative reactions. As a Narcissist cannot feel positive emotions, the desire for negative is to be able to relate in a different way and also from the constant aggravation of having to pretend to be someone they are not. Psychologists refer to this as trauma bonding as victims of such abuses can suffer from PTSD.
In truth, I find it admirable that HG in his last relationship didn’t make it for the period of the year and realized he is too cool to fake who he is. The first step is being who you are, and at least there was no golden period…or at least I hope not!
Good things ahead for HG’s recovery and if you want to check out his blog, please do so at the link provided above 🙂
It is only ever a question of time before you go down. If you are one of the lucky ones, you may just reach the anniversary of a year since when I wrapped my tendrils around you and pulled you into my world. For others the marker of a year is but a distant dream as they find themselves cast down from their pedestal after a number of months. I know you all find it so troubling and upsetting that one day you are treated like a queen and the next you are regarded as a peasant but that is the nature of this beast. It has always been the case for as long as I can remember and unless the next one lives up to expectations and delivers as they really ought to, then it will continue to be the case. I really would prefer that it was not…
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